We’re nearing the end of this three month experiment, and it’s turned out to be significantly different than my expectations. As I said in the beginning, I’ve had a bit of experience with online dating. While this is the first time I’ve actually paid for a service, I’ve been on several Internet dates in the past.
But here we are, three months in, and I still haven’t been on an eHarmony date. I didn’t expect to meet my husband in this three month period (I scare easily and move slowly, but that’s another story). Still, I’m really surprised at how ineffective eHarmony has proven to be.
OK, it’s not completely their fault. I was seeing someone “in real life” for about a month, so my matches weren’t a high priority. And I know my 30 mile search radius is a factor. I even tinkered with my settings at one point and received a handful of matches in the 60 mile range. Plus, I’m just picky. Being able to select the traits I want in a man only amplifies that.
Or maybe I’m just not so compatible with the men in the site’s database. Who knows?
Over a recent lunch a friend and I discussed my unsuccessful time on the site. She registered years ago and didn’t find much use for it, she said. But now that she’s a bit older and a bit more serious about what she wants from a relationship, it’s proven to be a better fit.
That’s not to say I’m not serious. I’m just… young. I know I want to get married someday, but as I told a friend last week, “I might be ready for a boyfriend, maybe, if I could give someone a chance for long enough, without freaking myself out—if that’s possible.”
In other words, I need time. Evidently, so does eHarmony. But with it, time literally is money—and they’ve seen enough of mine.
